“There’s an assortment of articles about helping us build healthy relationships with our partners and loved ones. But we don’t hear nearly as much about the most important relationship in our lives: the one with ourselves.”
I’m dedicating this page towards the relationship between you and YOU! You are the most important relationship If you’re not happy, and I mean genuinely happy with yourself how can you expect to be with everything else in your life? I can say from personal experience that having a good relationship with yourself gives you the possibility for new insights on life.
There is no reason why you shouldn’t be happy with your life. You are given this one chance on this planet and you have THE RIGHT to be happy. I believe that no one should live with fear, regret, sadness, or loneliness.
You are in control of your own happiness.
Having a good relationship with yourself improves your relationship with others. “Conway compared it to the safety instructions on airplanes: Put on your oxygen mask before putting it on anyone else, even a child.”
Remember to take care of yourself first. Look at yourself and consider yourself everyday. It means self-respect, self-care and self-love. Many people choose to not go deeper with their feelings nor their mindset. It either scares them or they just don’t know how to proceed to figure out what’s missing from their life. What’s missing for them to fulfill this self-love. With readers who are facing not knowing what to do in embracing themselves that’s what this page is for. I have found some ways that have helped me. To take my previous mindset “From hate and anger” to “Love and respect” I have learned to respect and love myself. It was a hard road but it pays off, I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I’m still in the process for more self searching but readers.. if you take this journey with me you will walk away learning more about yourself and you will have a more open outlook on life.
What I’ve Found From This Process
I admit I’m much happier now. Self-Esteem was my biggest issue. I always felt I was below everyone, that there was this “social norm
” and that I always fell short of everyone’s expectations. I was pretty down on myself. Then something happened. I had this long talk with my friends about my thought process. They looked at me in shock and straighten me out. This was the first step towards realizing my true potential my self worth, I could feel my life coming back to me. I could feel my body embracing “Jessica” I knew it was going to be a long journey towards my happiness. It takes time but I’m finally understanding who Jessica is supposed to be.
I’m finally finding myself.
Ways To Start
When you are saying you’re ready to start loving yourself, you’re ready to start being alive.
Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you YOU! Learn how to nurture yourself everyday. All those quirks that some people may put down. LOVE THEM. Love yourself for all the good you do, accept your “flaws” and that fact that you are imperfect. Here’s some news. Nobody is perfect. Look in the mirror and take a good look at yourself. There is only ONE person in the person in the world like you, you are here for a reason, never for a second think you are anything less.
Eliminate Self Criticism. We’ve all been there. “I could be skinnier , “I could be prettier”, “I could be smarter” etc.. It’s that little voice inside your head. That can be your best friend or worst enemy. If you find that you often judge yourself, make an effort to stop. You are you own worst critic.
Be Kind. Ever realize when someone compliments you your day just gets 100 times better? Who says you have to wait for someone? Compliment yourself! Now I’m not saying “Be narcissistic” Acknowledge that you have done your best, even if it feels like you failed.
Acknowledge Your Effort. It’s not always about winning or being the best at everything. It is the effort that counts! Remind yourself that you are continuing to do you best. If it seems to comes easy for others remember everyone has their strengths. No one got anywhere with hard work and practice.
Don’t Worry So Much! Seriously, don’t worry so much. There are some things in this life that we just don’t have control over. Let go of your worry. It’s a horrible way to live. To be in constant worry.. I admit I did that. I felt like I was drowning! So instead about spending time worrying, think about what can you do to help the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then make a wish, throw a penny in a fountain about what you want then move on. Next step is to surrender and see what happens. You can only do so much.
Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make changes in the world. You have the ability to do anything.
Forgive Yourself. If you had made mistakes in the past that caused you to feel less worthy, forgive yourself. Like a 12-step program You need to forgive the past and move on towards the future. If you are fixated on the past you’ll never move forward.
Grow Spiritually. When you take the time to self-reflect loving yourself follows automatically. You become peaceful. You feel connected. You could draw, meditate, go for walks, listen to music. Do whatever makes you feel most at peace. Everyone has their alone time. What is that? Run with that!
Have Fun! Put some fun in your life! I know work, school, kids, family come with this whole life thing. Like you make time for others make time for yourself. What makes you happy? Is it singing, is it reading? Traveling? Go fishing? Don’t take yourself so seriously. Relax and quit worrying over things that don’t matter.
There’s Beauty Everywhere. I love when I go running, I tend to notice the little things when I do. That’s why running is my alone time. When you learnt hat there is beauty everywhere life will automatically seem better. Lately we’ve been surrounded by hatred, shootings all the bad in the world. That’s what everyone seem to be focusing on. Notice that spring is here. (Even if it STILL snowing!) Flowers will be blooming, baby ducks are being born, notice how green the grass is. There’s life everywhere and it isn’t stopping. So why should you?
If this helps please comment below. I’m interested in hearing your thoughts. Let’s take this journey together.
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- The Best Relationship Is With Yourself (jessamorena.com)
- 10 Steps to Happiness (stewartinnes.wordpress.com)
- Happiness Is A Choice (thoughtcatalog.com)