Written by Jessica Moreno
Do you ever find yourself saying that “Everything happens for a reason” or “This is God‘s plan?” People go through situations in life, whether it be breaking up with your boyfriend, meeting someone, being in a car accident or losing a loved one. It makes me wonder… Did it really happen for a reason? Or did it just happen?
When people experience a difficult situation, they want to believe that the reason they’re going through such a difficult time, is because there is a greater plan, God’s plan to be exact. Both sayings are just that.. they’re just sayings. Things people say to cope. ”There is no valid evidence that God exists, we have no way of knowing what it is he (or she) wanted to happen, other than that it actually happened” psychologytoday.com Did God really want thousands to die in Katrina? Did God really find it necessary to have someone shoot 20 kids and teachers while attending school? What about kids growing up without parents? People being born paralyzed?
People created these sayings because, when we come across a situation that we find difficult to understand, we need to find a way to for us to feel better. By saying “It happened for a reason” or that “This is God’s Plan” we are relinquishing our human rights. We are separating ourselves from the situation at hand, taking the blame off of us. No one wants to be held accountable for a tragedy.
People die everyday, we all know this, we learn this at a very young age. People are born, people live and people die. This is the basic outline of life, what happens from point A to point B.. it just happens. We could believe that there is a grand plan, that no matter how many times we change our mind about something, that it was already destined to happen. That when tragedy strikes there is a lesson to be learned. It’s amazing actually, to take a situation and (depending on the person’s personal situation) you could believe towards the light or the darkness.
These are moments that are happening because they just happen, like a game, either you win or lose. It’s like the fortune cookies we read after eating Chinese food, or reading our horoscopes in the daily newspaper. You take the situation and you turn it into a negative or positive aspect. You apply it to your life, that way it’s easier for you to move forward.
There is no shame in wanting to move forward after something bad happens, it’s a good thing. We are giving ourselves the okay to be okay. Having these saying can give people new perspectives, a chance to be more intimate in relationships, to overcome personal challenges. If something good happens, you can take it as a sign that you’re on the right track. That someone, somewhere is looking out for you, watching you. That there is a greater power who is looking out for your best interests. Is that such a bad thing? To give ourselves potentially false hope? I believe not, in fact I like this placebo effect. I believe that all anyone wants is the security in knowing that they are loved, that they are cared for, that they are something and that they’re worth something.
Nothing’s wrong with that, it might just make you feel better. So next time something happens in life… whether it being good or bad… Did it happen for a reason? Or did it just happen?